Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
What is true is already so. Owning up to it doesn't make it worse. Not being open about it doesn't make it go away. And because it is true it is what is there to be interacted with. Anything untrue isn't there to be lived. People can stand what is true, for they are already enduring it.
You can survive on your own; you can grow strong on your own; you can prevail on your own, but you cannot become human on your own.
Outside ideas of right and wrong there is a field. I'll meet you there.
The distance from your pain, your grief, your unattended wounds is the distance from your partner.
Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.
To be fully seen by someone, then, and to be loved anyhow - this is a human offering that can border on the miraculous.
We do not change in order to be accepted; we change because we are accepted.